Editor: The mother who debuted as a star mom always has a smile in front of the light curtain. However, in recent years, she has been diagnosed with thyroid cancer, lymphoma and lung cancer. She has always been a responsible caregiver in her family, and even gives her monthly bags to all friends she knows every year. However, 3-degree cancer has given her a different body: let yourself rest, don’t snatch it when the sky falls! Nothing is wrong, you can't do without it.
At the end of (2019), my mother announced on her face that she had just had a knife removed the lung adenocarcinoma and the third time she had been diagnosed with cancer. In the photo, she smiled very well, and didn't look like she had just had a serious illness. Half a year later, she met her mother, and she was still as happy and laughed happily: "I just finished my first major test after surgery (after the surgery, she must go back to check regularly to confirm that the cancer cells have not recovered)!"
Why choose to publicize your condition? Mom said that she wanted everyone to know that being sick is not scary. "People like me who have 3 major illness cards can enjoy their life." She smiled and replied 5 hours after the post was posted, all of which were carefully asked by friends. It is evident that the good people in the circle are good.
Don't want to worry about being a friend who is hospitalized with a facial mask and is calm and careOverall people may be difficult to imagine, what does it feel like to be declared three times by a doctor to have cancer? In 2004, when her mother was first told about her adenocarcinoma of the thyroid cancer, she insisted on taking the bus home alone. "It takes almost an hour for me to ride home from the top of the road. There is no bus at night, so I can calm down." Mom laughed.
"I was just sitting on the bus alone in a daze, my brain kept thinking: Oh my God, I really have cancer! I need to start a knife…… Who should I talk to first? Or don't? My daughter is working in Canada, one in mainland China, and the other is still reading a book. Who should I talk to? Then many scenes of life came out."
Unfortunately, after the knife was opened, she had a new book reporter to do it. "You can't stop until this time, so you have to force yourself to go to the scene."
After this lung adenocarcinoma surgery, she was already familiar with the SOP who was hospitalized. "I just brought all kinds of care products to the hospital. How could I be sloppy when I see me so many people are going to see me? I can apply a mask when I am bored at night. All the doctors and nurses I have met say that I am the coldest patient they have ever seen."
Just before the knife was opened, Mom also went on vacation to Sumei Island with several friends such as Xiao Gang. At that time, she knew her condition and did not tell anyone, "Because I really don't want to be happy with everyone." With her life carefully at any time, Mom is willing to live, eat and travel, and spend every day freely.
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I have to worry about whether I have cancer three times or not.Now my mother has finished surgery and her journey has come to an end. However, because cancers that occur in the adenoids are prone to transfer, they still have to be retried on time for examination. "I'm now having a small exam every three months and a big exam every six months."
However, although the tumor can be removed, it's not a trace of the water over the ship: "For example, if I say that now, as long as the weather changes a little and my air pressure becomes lower, I will start to feel gasping, which is even more accurate than the amphibian (laugh); then the most affects my lymph and thyroid glands are sleep. For thyroidectomy and chemical dysfunction on both sides, I have to take medicine for a long time. It's impossible for my body to recover to the state before I got sick."
Every time I get sick, the feeling I feel is different. She had cancer for the first time more than 10 years ago. She was only 50 years old and didn't think she was serious. She had nothing to do after the surgery. However, because the thyroid gland was removed, her body lacked endocrine effects, so she had to take a medicine.
"The second time I had a lymph gland surgery three years ago, it had a greater impact on me. At that time, I was about 60 or 61 years old. According to my average age, I should have had 20 years of good life. That was the first time I felt: Are there not many days left?"
So far, the physical illness that caused my mother to be: "When I don't care, life is very fast. ;But if you start to plan, life will only be faster. Even for 20 years, it is only a matter of a flash. "
After 30 years of taking care of your family, you have become a medical consultant for your relatives. Almost all of them will come to ask her advice if you are sick, which department to attend, which doctor to see, or which hospital to attend when you are temporarily in a state of affairs.This is not only because she is "a good doctor after a long illness". The reason why her mother is familiar with all kinds of things in the hospital, but also because she is actually a carer with nearly 30 years of experience. In addition to his family's elders, even after his ex-husband and his family moved from Hong Kong to Taiwan to settle down, the mother took care of all the big and small business at home. She once said in a media interview that year that she lived in Hong Kong, but fortunately her in-laws took great care of her, and this kind of kindness must be reported.
Behaved the person who was responsible and didn't want to worry about the people around her. When she had cancer for the second time, she even told her little daughter in the United States after she finished the knife. "She knew that she couldn't cry anymore, and she said to me very angryly: Mom, why don't you tell me if you are sick?"
The mother said, and couldn't help but red her eyes: "For many years, I have been with everyone when I am sick. I am too familiar with the hospital.. It is precisely because I know the anxiety that accompany the patient and the fear of unknown illness that I will not let the people around me go. No matter how hard it is to cure it, I know what's going on. What else do you think I'm afraid of? ”
After repeatedly saying and saying "I will never be able to get sick later." After this lung adenocarcinoma surgery, my mother had to "report" her little daughter. Unexpectedly, my little daughter who specially flew back to Taiwan from the United States to accompany her mother was unconscious in the ward due to poor time.
"At that time, I was inserted into the drain tube at the wound, and I felt like vomiting and going to the bathroom. But my daughter couldn't even scream, and she didn't have a caregiver after pressing the flask. I couldn't get up by myself, so I endured it in bed for 2 hours." Mom said with a wry smile.
After 6 resignation in 5 years, everything is not as good as saying that you are in love with the repeated treatment and illness. The days when you go to and from the hospital are like a part of your daily life. However, the reason why the mother is truly open to life and death is actually because she has faced the death of many people around her in recent years. "In the past five years, I have done my 6 family members' dismissals. Whether I left after getting ready, caught off guard, waited for a long time before leaving, or even handled a late funeral, I have encountered it.""Every time I held a dismissal, I told myself: I don't want to set up a spiritual hall, don't recite, don't burn incense, don't offer sacrifices. The more I've lived, the more I feel, the more I feel These things have no intention to me. By this age, people probably have already dealt with the previous generation's departure, but I want to teach the next generation how to deal with my departure. I think this is a lesson that everyone should learn. "
Therefore, in addition to telling my family to avoid all the complicated rituals, my mother has also chosen the style of setting up a tower for herself and keeping the ashes. She laughed and said, "I don't know where I flew to after I passed away, so where would I come back to hear you recite? After a person left, he was completely gone and had zero anything. It's better to treat people when they are alive."
The mother's mother passed away in 2011. She remembered that her mother often refused to take good medicine and gave her a good medicine while she was sick, and she was a very uncooperative patient. "She has a bad heart and has diabetes, so we strictly regulate her diet. Unexpectedly, she bought food and hid it deep in the refrigerator. She got up in the middle of the night and ate it secretly. My family heard the sound and looked at it. My mother was so nervous that the old man stayed in the nursing room for 10 days."
" Sometimes I didn't notice it, but the negative situation actually reacted unconsciously on the patient. . If I have the chance to come back, or maybe I won’t say that I’m not allowed to eat or that I can’t eat, I can change it: Just eat a little bit, okay? ”
Learn to give up your responsibilities and only want to play until the end of your lifeIn the past, my mother had a habit that had been maintained for more than 10 years: every Mid-Autumn Festival, she would give her monthly bags to all friends she knew in the circle, and even all staff members of the program, and she had to give several hundred copies each time. "During that time, my eyes were scattered every day, and I was thinking: Where am I going to record today? Who are you here? Who are the staff? How many times should I prepare? Once, I was so anxious that I was over-exchanged and I couldn't breathe. The doctor said: Mom, you are too nervous."
"It's my 60th birthday. This day, the gift I gave myself was: I don’t do this anymore. In the past, I had to be fully equipped and carried on one shoulder. Later, I thought that things including illness might be a police officer who told me that there was nothing that would fall down if you were missing. ”
Yes, in recent years, my mother has been interested in reducing her work and spending more time gathering and traveling with her friends. She also devoted herself to charity with her sister Tao and went to the hospital to share her experience of how she has been living with cancer over the years. Ask her what arrangements will be made next? She replied cheerfully: "I'll play all the way!"
"In fact, everyone has the last day in life. When you are young, you will have goals, many things you want to do in the future, take care of children, etc. But I am a 65-year-old, and I have done all these things. Every time I make an appointment with my friend for a meal, it is like a short time, but this is not sadness, but it makes me cherish every opportunity to get together more."
My mother said, "My idea is to give myself five years, and when I reach the age of 70, I will go to the nursing home. My children are growing up, and they can take good care of themselves, and I don't have the worries about the future."
Mom also wants to tell many generations who have worked hard for 50s and 60s: Don't snatch it when the sky falls, try to put it down, and solve it for yourself and others. "Don't always compare with others. Doing things that really make you happy is also a kind of dismissal."
Original text: The realization of three cancers! Mom: Don’t snatch it when the sky falls, it’s better to play all the way to snatch