It is not a pity to make friends. Friends have to choose rather than blindly collect At the end of the year, I will send handwritten cards before the Christmas festival. I have maintained this habit for about four or five years until the European market was suspended for a year in 2016, and the message was blessed by the message. At the end of the year, I should review it. When I opened a document containing the way my close friends received the letter, I found that there were several names in these two years, leaving my core life circle.
In early 2015, I made an appointment with several old friends to Bangkok for the New Year. As soon as I returned to China, I sent a message of two or three hundred words, deliberately receiving words of responsibility and affection, and finally not forgetting my blessings. Afterwards, I resolutely decided to delete the other party's contact method, including the face and communication software. The people around me hurriedly tried to reconcile and yelled that they had been quarreling for many years. Since I knew the other party's personality, I was as good as I could tolerate it. My friend still wanted to be careful. I didn't understand why my reaction was so intense, and I needed to be so magnificent and unscrupulous attitude.
In international relations, we are always "tolerated and beaten" and we are not suitable for each other and endure them blindly because of the saying "We are friends."
At the beginning, I was inseparable. When I went to any meeting, I would like to go forward and retreat. The urgent conversation key was set to the other party's name. I was a former friend and roommate, and I was not a local travel companion who had been abroad for the first time. They had a relationship foundation for nearly ten years and lived in the same house for four years. Later, they moved out of the house they lived with because of rent from the house. They walked towards their ideal life and gathered together again to this New Year's Eve trip.
I replied lightly, "You said it's right. My friend also quarreled at the end of the bed, but I don't want this friend anymore." He sounded cold-blooded, but there were several fierce quarrels during the whole trip. He killed me in defiance, and crossed the bottom line without even being able to break the door, and poked the pain. Now choose silence and try to be calm and rational, and do not want to be disobedient and lose the ability to judge, because understanding the harm of changing the damage is the real difficulty for people.
On several nights after returning to China, my brain was always talking about the same question: "What is the meaning of the existence of a friend?" Finally, I came up with the answer. At this stage, what I need is an unbreakable sense of peace of mind. If I can't feel it, it means that this person has not entered the heart and does not want to stay strong. So he lost the reconciliation and no longer reconciled, which has become the ruthlessness of dealing with people at the age of thirty. The peacemaker in the middle began to detail his advantages, such as humor, straightforwardness and kindness, trying to achieve a soft deadlock, but unfortunately I was feeling nothing at this moment.
It’s not that I don’t want this friend, but that I don’t need it anymoreBefore I was thirty, I was superstitious about human beings. Maybe I was indifferent to the fact that I didn’t learn to be careful. I tried to build a network that was easy to break, and I couldn’t resist the wind and rain. I often spent two or three times, and even more effort on repairing the holes. It wasn't until these two years that I realized that what I really needed was not a net, but a solid rope that could pull when needed, and I could hand over my trust and hold it tightly with both hands.
years old, we are ripe, so mature that we are no longer afraid of loneliness or loneliness, and force ourselves to socialize. The year of international reduction has arrived, and we understand that making friends is to choose, not collect. I deducted work during the day for seven days a week, and the rest of the weekend and five dinners, and the holidays were reserved for fun and learning, and the time I spent with my family, and the remaining two times of the game was reserved for friends who wanted to maintain their relationship.
is a small amount of time for intercourse. If you want to know what your friends are busy with recently, whether your boyfriend, girlfriend, husband and wife, father and mother, children at home, family, and cats and puppies are good. If you have a large chat content, you can be without nutrition. The more you have no brains, the better, rather than half-baked social language. When the other party talked about the topic that made people careless, which artist they were getting close to recently, who was chasing him, where to go to play recently, how to get a valuable ticket to the weekend's audio party …… and other kinds of fun.
Based on my favor, I usually feel tired and endured it. Looking at it for a second more is torture, not to mention rolling my eyes, so I simply release my animals and refuse to come. Even though it was very good since then, I have long since left my original life state and pursued satisfaction from different levels. Even if you were once very popular, you don’t have a common language or value view at this moment, just be calm!
I was old and sentimental, and I didn’t want to lose any of my friends, but after the past two years, I decided not to stay strong or seek peace, and I felt much more relaxed. What is left behind by shaving the sand is precious. Build the existing people well, rather than blindly catching them like eight-clawed fish, and want to catch them tightly if they need them or not. You should make your "good" worthwhile and leave them to people who are worth it.
#People are not internet but solid ropes
Sometimes it's not that you don't want this friend, but now you don't need it. Please leave it to people who share the same language and value for the smallest time.
Book Introduction
Unfortunately, leave goodness to the right person
Author: William
Publisher: Xuzhi Culture
Publishing Date: 2020/05/11
Author Introduction
William Tseng: Born from Tainan Salt Land, Beimen, he entered Taipei City at the age of 18 and graduated from university and entered the media industry. He has been working in magazines and operating news websites for a full 10 years. He chose to become a self-cultivated farming industry in 2017, when he was exhausted in his youth. Now a website operator, advertising maker and stylist, he is writing a book that has not been fully prepared for "Psycho doc. Psycho Doc" and published in 2019 "People who get off work, leave first".