▌The cunning is mature wisdom Finally, the hot summer that is so hot that people look forward to is still gone. When I was walking in the evening, there were leaves on the road, and the colorful colors belong to autumn. I picked up treasures all the way because there were so many beautiful leaves. Suddenly, a slight sway passed by, and the fallen leaves waving slightly. He raised his head to see a tall and straight white-haired man walking past. A thin silver-haired woman tightened her feet and came to catch his hand. She angrily said, "I always walk so fast. I'm walking, it's not a walk!" The man quickly held her, looked down at the person beside her and smiled, "There's no way, my legs are too long." It sounds like a slap. I looked at their backs and felt that the autumn scenery was even more beautiful.
However, I heard too many stories about old resentment. Some old couples and wives quarrel when they wake up, and they don’t close their mouths until they close their eyes at night. Instead, they sit on the card table, which can be quiet for several hours. Some are enemies, some are transmitted through their children; some are friends and distrust each other; some are walking together, with a "social distance" between them; what is more interesting is that an old couple lives in the same room, share a refrigerator, and puts the husband's food on the upper floor, and the wife's lower floor.
In the stereotyped impression, women seem to be more confused. In fact, after I lived to this age, I heard that many old men were more confused than old ladies.
▌When you talk to your old partner, the more you get angry you get.A friend who was younger than me once complained that he could not stand his husband and said something repeatedly. She should have been against each other five or six times, but the other party still couldn't stop talking, and it turned into a big quarrel. Once after the argument, she sat down and thought about it while laughing suddenly. There was nothing big worthy of arguing. In the future, when her husband talked, she would say "Ah! Really!" and then say "Yes!" and then "That's it." …… At the same time, she was busy with her own affairs, completely uninterrupted, or she didn't hear it. Strangely, sometimes the other party didn't notice that she didn't respond, and she realized that the more she was concerned about the other party's remarks, the more sparks it became. I laughed at her, you learned until you were so tragic. She said this is called "mature wisdom"!
I have read many novels and dramas, and the themes are real stories between family and family. Once I read a young man quarreled with his family and said, "There are all such fatal homes! I will never get married in the future!" Then I shook my backpack on my shoulder and ran out. I couldn't help laughing. As long as there were people, it would be impossible for me to have no home.
Most families are like nucleus, with two tips in the middle. Almost all elderly families have reached the last tip, and not many have married couples, and many of them are left with only one person on the tip. According to human nature, it is a blessing to have a wife, but I often hear the elderly lady say that she is the most comfortable and happy now. There are really many problems with the old couple. Are they like the writer Virginia? Wuerf said: "Humans have a sense of dignity and loneliness, and there is a way between husband and wife."
How to make this way not affect life, I am afraid that quarrel cannot be used, but mature wisdom.
▌Marriage and family are like battles, and you need to bring wisdom to the temple.There are certainly many old couples who are harmonious and sweet, and what a beautiful song "Song of White Hair". I also saw a pair of silver hair companions walking and singing while walking, and an old couple sitting on a chair on the road, and the husband gently sucked his wife's hair that was blown by the wind with his hands. I have never read "People" deeply. A few days ago, I suddenly realized that a lyric that often uses to describe happiness, "The hand of my son, grows old with me" is not what I think. "The original word" comes from "The Poetry "Northern Style: The Drum Chapter"" "The life and death are in harmony with you. The hands of the elders are together with you." It is said that when two young warriors set off, they encourage each other, and they want to end up living until they turn into white hair, which is very sad. But I chewed it over and over again. Marriage and family are also small battles. Young people also have to encourage each other and live until they turn into white hair, right? Then you have to use mature wisdom to deal with the problem, because this "war scene" is much more complicated than a real war scene!
Master Director Ingma. Bergman said, "It is better for two people to go to the ground than to go to the ground alone." Haha! Please cherish your wife!
※ This article is excerpted from "Stand Upright at Ninety, Continue Dance to the End: Mrs. Vivi’s Happy Old Age"."Stand upright at the 90th, continue to dance to the end point: Mrs. Weiwei's happy old age"
Author: Le Zhu Jun (Mrs. Weiwei)
Publisher: Life in the World
Publication date: 2022/03/30
